She Ain’t Even Know it - The Reign of Rape Rap
Much of Hip Hop’s lyrics are laced with bravado and highly phallocentric but within those tightly pro male pleasure stanzas are moments when the female pleasure is celebrated. This is the exact reason I have such a complicated relationship with Hip Hop as a genre and why it is often at the center of my academic critique. While being a fan of some Hip Hop songs may be a matter of personal choice, I can’t help but think that the rape rap flow so alive in 2013 in particular is something I just can’t help but turn my face up with.. **rolls eyes**
Don’t get me wrong I’m not saying songs in 2013 are any worst than those in the past but there has been a noticeable shift in the typical Hip Hop discourse in 2012/2013…The shift moves away from “macking chicks” to ”getting her loose on the goose”
No longer are flows on the BIG and R.Kelz tip, they would usually (not always) waxed lyrically about their abilities to pull the “baddest chick” in the room purely based on their game, their swag and the fact that they are “the man” . BUT recently Hip Hop is obsessed with this pseudo/ date rape culture … These dudes now are apparently unable to pull chicks purely with game (shade) , they seem to be dependent on alcohol to do the work that BIG was able to do lyrically.
If it isn’t Ricky Rozay slipping Molly into his date’s drink and “she ain’t even know it” it is the ever humping Robin Thicke who is unwilling to wait for an actual Yes to make his advancements, instead he pursues his prey while she is caught up in “Blurred Lines” he justifies this by reminding us that she only pretends to be a good girl she is actually a caged animal so “hitting while she blurred” is ok cuzzzz since it is “in her nature .. Hey hey hey”..
We can’t forget to mention the impatient Miguel who isn’t the least bit subtle NOPE.. he flat out asks his potential conquest just “how many drinks would it take you to leave with me”. Then he follows up the question by letting lil mama know he is a hot commodity so she better don’t waste his precious time.. (Honey child u better sip quick, dip and strip)
It sure seems like R&B and Hip Hop “best” have lost their gift of gab or at least they are too lazy or too busy to even bother to try. Instead of an ear full of flirts all she gets is a stomach full of shots. Dudes aren’t wasting their time on some BIG stuff you know that “soon as he buys that wine, I just creep up from behind and ask what your interest are, who you be with things that make you smile, what numbers to dial, you gon’ be here for while?" Nah too much talk and too much work ………..
Not that the sweet nothings (them softly whispered LIES) are something to be desired but at least a sister can make a clear, un-iniberated decision (don’t take away my right to choose) if she wants to head home with her suitor.
These gameless dudes aren’t even phased by the fact that their conquest interest in them may be purely alcohol fueled . After all Wale and his homeboy Sabastian Mikael ain’t shy when they sing ” But girl that was four shots ago, now you can’t believe that you didn’t feel me, cause you wasn’t saying that last night.”
I guess we should have expected this trend ever since Trey said Ahhhh Ahhhhh and spread the word bout his homie Patron …. “He works every time, Patron you my n@&8#”.
I don’t know bout you but even though the beats of these songs are intoxicating (pun intended) I can’t help but cringe every time one of these “ode to date rape” joints come on. Date rape, even pseudo references to it isn’t the least bit poppin and bedding a female while she is under the influence of alcohol or drugs which diminishes her ability to give TRUE CONSENT isn’t only a creep move, in some cases based on how faded she is, it is a crime…
So as usual I’m stuck between being a scholar and a pseudo fan having to pull out my whistle and call FOUL on the play (yea it’s a football reference) and join the circle of sisters who are calling on the Hip Hop fraternity which is already inundated with critiques to consider abandoning rape rap….
stop killin’ the vibe